Submitted By: Rykan V
She looks like she’s deriving a lot of pleasure from this! At least the groom allowed her to crawl on grass. Would’ve sucked to crawl on concrete or lava rocks or something. Actually, if not for her dangling naked breasts, sexy lingerie and “rhinestone” leash this looks like a pretty traditional wedding. Bring on the Michael Jackson medley!
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She does NOT look like she’s deriving a lot of pleasure. I certainly hope her family and friends are taking care of her
D/S relationships are creepy. Why they confuse submission for love is beyond me.
Judgmental much?
scholarly use of grammar much?
Why yes.
That is where you are wrong, submission by its very nature requires love.
Love is a necessary component of a D/s relationship. It is the submissive’s job to love, serve, and let the Dominant know her limits. It is the Dominates’s job to love. protect, and respect the submissive’s boundries. There is a whole lot of trust (and love) that has to go into a D/s relationship for it to work.
Please learn a bit about it before you judge others. A D/S relationships requires a lot of love, and trust.
a D/s relationship is an amazing loving thing and any good Sub would stress safe sane and consensual
Wow, this is creepy. She doesn’t look like she enjoys it… I hope her family… doesn’t exist.
Please let this be from a special, never-before-seen episode of “Punk’d.”
I’m guessing the sheet behind her is so the wedding guests don’t have to look her in the… er… brown eye? How courteous.
@Apps
could be that she’s not allowed to show happiness ??? dunno just thinking…
This makes me feel sad, it looks like she wants to cry.
too funny, best laugh ive had all day. who cares if she is having any pleasure from this or not- im enjoying my laughter and thats all that matters. stupid people…. let’s just hope they can’t breed.
Tanya’s Dad couldn’t have been prouder to walk her down the aisle. She finally had mastered walking on a leash *wipes tear*
I always think there’s something seriously wrong with a man who can’t deal with a thinking woman who has a personality. Having to control a woman to this point – sad for both hubby and wife.
where do you get off calling submissive women empty headed and without personality? I’ve met about as many (if not more) “normal” people who where blanks and repetative cookie-cutters as I have kinky people. besides, while all appearences may bo of the power being in the mans hands there, he can only “make” her do those things because she wants to do them. Most of the real power of the situation is in her hands.
Goddamn right.
hear hear!
Thank you
What if this was her choice? Some people find a D/s relationship to fit them quite well.
As a married submissive woman…STFU. I have quite a bit of personality, and I never allow anyone to treat me like a doormat. I think there’s something seriously wrong with a person who doesn’t attempt to learn about a subject before judging it.
Thank you steph! living proof! it’s not creepy it’s normal!
Normal? In what way is that normal?
You also have to understand that for many people, this level of control is an affront to their personality and desires. OP was way out of line saying that this woman has no personality, but I agree with the sentiment.
I wondered if this sort of thing was for me a while back. After a little experimenting (with my loving hubby), I realized that this way of life would do damage to us and the relationship. I’m truly happy that you have found someone who can fulfill your needs and desires. But this is the way I react to this kind of picture.
It’s out of line, but you agree with it?
No sorry but the sentiment is false, incorrect, untrue, and flat out wrong. the sentiment was that submissive women are devoid of personality, and it either is so or not (hint: it’s not).
You’re a feminist, so am I! But I’m also a switch who leans heavily on the sub side. Submissive woman in the BDSM lifestyle who can not think, has no personality, depends on her Master for everything and is a burden to her Master is considered worthless.
While I don’t have a 24/7 M/s relationship with my fiance, and we are not planning on a BDSM ceremony other than in the hotel room that night, we are both very intelligent individuals who enjoy our lifestyle.
Word of advice? Do a little research sometime, widen your horizions, and think before you act.
Truely, in D/s relationship the man does think the woman has a personality. I havn’t met the couple so i don’t know them, but a ‘good’ master will understand the pysical and mental limits of isolation or control. To be in this form of relationship you have to be very mature, and very much in love. If your not, it will fail, and it would be too evident for them to have decided to get married. The girl likes being controlled, she isn’t forced, she can say no (or the stopword) and she can leave, the man of course like being in control. It’s very simple, but very easily misunderstood.
i feel sorry for her.
i hope to hell it is a joke.
yeah…your wedding day is suppose to be the happiest day of your life, and she looks anything but happy. D/S relationship or not, it looks like her bg da’s been shot to hell.
I hate that description. Wedding day happiest day of life blah blah blah. The only reason your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life is based on an antiquated notion that when a woman gets married, she becomes a wife and can start breeding and thereby come into her true role as a wife and mother. My wedding day was quite happy, because it was a celebration, but I had an identity before marrying my husband and I have the same one while married.
Really, by saying “She looks so sad on what is supposed to be the happiest day of her life,” you’re being just as sexist and pigeon holing her just as much as a depiction of her being submissive. A depiction of her in a submissive role is the exact same thing that this “Happiest day of her life” BS communicates. An exaggerated submissive depiction is just forthright and literal about it, whereas the excessive focus on a wedding as being the best thing that has ever happened to the bride contains all of the sexism in the world, but in subtext.
Excellently put marriedwtf. Unfortunately most people are so used to this sort of institutionalised sexism that they fail to realise the underlying connotations of “the happiest day of her life”.
So many people are too quick to judge without understanding the first thing about what a D/s relationship entails. I am a Mistress, so unlike most of the uninformed people who have commented I speak with some authority on this subject. I respect and care for my sub utterly and do what I do to please him as much, if not more, than myself. I showed him this picture and he confirmed what I suspected. It would be a dream come true for him to have me parade him around in public like this. The only reason I don’t is because social conventions dictate I don’t. Too many idiots would be too quick to judge and assume I was being cruel. I actually feel it is more cruel to refuse him something he clearly wants and needs so much.
I also find it amusing that there seems to be a general feeling that it is always the man who takes the dominant (or “bastard” according to so many here) role. Not in my world
More power to you (from a dom male who has been arguing the same point for months in this thread).
Good catch, Apps. But, um, I think La Bridesmaidzilla was being sarcastic. It’s hard to tell sometimes. I’ll have to choke up on her leash more. (?!?!?!) (*yak*)
Oh yea, sorry. I totally missed on the sarcasm. I was too horrified looking at the poor girl. Still am. Please like Elarain said, please please someone tell me this is from a joke TV show.
I think she’s humiliated but i’m pretty sure that’s what gets her off
I hope she bites his leg and chews his Italian leather shoes…
In the Know…How do you have knowledge of BDSM stars?
Maybe he’s into that sort of thing. And so what if he is?
‘Cause I’m “In the Know” Haha No, actually (horrifyingly enough) my boyfriend looked at that pic and went, oh that’s So-And-So. That pic’s from a movie… So after I got over my case of the heebiejeebies, I decided to post a comment clearing things up. Haha
thanks In the Know… i was gonna say, 99% of people who find themselves in a situation like this are there because they want to be.
Oh, God I’m happy to know that it’s not real, that is so disgusting. I’m pretty much okay with whatever fetish gets people off so long as it’s consentual, but looking at that pic just makes my stomach sink down to my shoes.
Trust me, if it was for real, it would be consentual.
ok guys. There are people out there that are into what’s called D/s or Dominance and submission. Obviously this girl is submissive. It may not look like she is enjoying what is happening but the entire D/s relationship AND community is based on a principal, safe, sane and consensual. Her husband/fiancee whatever you want to call him as well as her have consented to this and WANT to do this. Being submissive you don’t always show you are enjoying something on the outside while on the inside you have turned to mush (no pun intended). They want to do this because they like the lifestyle, being a movie or not people do this all the time.
The principal of safe, sane and consensual is the IDEAL but we both know that is NOT always the case. Sometimes people of both genders can be abusive (or abused) There is nothing wrong with people being concerned for her. People are fine with it once they know she is willing but not EVERYONE in the lifestyle IS.
Oh – In the know- thank you thank you thank you
I kept coming back to this post hoping to see a message like yours. The look on her face is literally making me want to call Social Services, but of course I don’t know anything about the lady to give them any info.
Phew – thanks again In the Know!!!!!
Call Social Services? WHY?!? WTF?!?! This is consensual between to adults you ass! It’s called BDSM! Crawl out of your hole and type it in Google! This is not abuse, this is a sexual lifestyle enjoyed by quite a few of your fellow humans.
HOw many people on this earth are there that think, that because this way of life, or sex, isn’t what they’re used to is wrong? It’s normal, and quite frankly more fufilling sexually. DOn’t feel sorry, if anything feel jealous, i don’t care if this was from a movie, this is more a debate of the practice, than the photo. There are alot of people who do this, and alot of people who get pleasure from this, crawl out of you shell for god’s sake!
There’s BDSM and then there’s abuse. A lot of people get confused about the two- you shouldn’t jump down their throats for their good intentions. These are the people who help when they see their neighbor smacking their wife around instead of assuming “oh, it’s consensual, she enjoys being strangled, she’s a submissive,”. We need people like that- people who have a conscious. Not everyone who gets humiliated and degraded asks for it…
I’m a submissive and even that picture made me a little uneasy.
Thanks In The Know! Because I was starting to worry that this woman was a victim of human trafficking, and not a consensual D/S person.
Does anyone know this girl’s name or the video this was taken from? Thanks!
She’s smokin hot. Good for him.
@Mike You’re comment was an epic fail.
You’re insane and I’m sure that you haven’t read the comments about the humiliation and sadness. This website isn’t 4chan, fapchan or 7chan.
You’re = a contraction of the words “you” & “are.” Judgmental dumbass.
Uhm. . . he used it correctly. . .
not the first time. makes it funnier, actually.
Shes probably enjoying all that humiliation.
there is no fucking humilation or sadness!!!! she is not forced into this fucking thing! how many people are going to go around felling sorry for this girl and saying the guy is a basterd? this is sexual and makes BOTH of them happy!!!!! get over it!
Good to know this is an anti-kink site with pigheaded, small-minded visitors. Heaven forbid people have different tastes. Do you also hate people who eat eggplant?
Kind of, yeah.
Umm… from reading the comments here, I felt I had to add my own. A lot of you seem to have the idea that S&M or D/S is a horrible thing that is forced upon the other party and traumatizes them. Having been active in the, er, “art” of S&M for years, I can tell you right now that does not happen. That, dears, is called rape. In S&M, if the other party is doing something you did not give them permission to do, you sure as hell let them know and they sure as hell stop. I am on the M side of S&M, and it is a very relaxing experience for me. After all, it is a fetish, and it is very hard to find another party willing or glad to soothe the urges of that fetish for you.
Well put!
Thank you. I’m a sub in a D/s relationship, and the thing I hate most is when people assume it’s forced or abuse. Trust me, I’m a very willing participant.
@NN: illegal things makes it way on the internet all the time. Did you just discover the invention of the computer while you’re at it?
Whether or not you like S&M / BDSM, the comments from the folks (guys, I’m assuming) that seem to think that the sexual humiliation of women isn’t something problematic (cuz fame and a hefty paycheck totes make up for that! No, really!) and is actually pretty cool is way more disturbing than consensual behaviour.
There are plenty of people (mostly women, but yeah I know. Men suffer too) who don’t consent to being treated like a thing or animal but it happens anyway because of the threat of violence and the like. And like it or not, images like this reinforce the belief that women are more often than not the sex class and nothing else of any value or worth.
That is called RAPE. Or spousal abuse. It is only tolerable here because both parties consent to it- a rape victim or an abused spouse does not. Who are YOU to say that they don’t have the right as women to have this fetish? That it dehumanizes them? Sexist. Did you know that the majority of women are under the impression that it’s the woman’s fault? Men are also submissive in many of these relationships. Grow up or go Amish.
HERE! HERE! Grow up or go Amish, Classic!
@=p
Very much so this. If I ever found a decent dom/M/whatever it’s called these days and they’d ask me to do this (albeit more dressed), I probably would. Couldn’t care less about what family and friends think of my ‘hobby’, it’d be our wedding and we shouldn’t have to conform it to other people’s preferences.
Love you!
Though i may differ a bit on the wedding thing cause my dom is stretching enough limits (20 years older isn’t that bad…) i agree with the thought though, it’s starting to annoy me that people think BDSM is forced on the girl, and that she is scared, it’s not rape. I am a sub, my master is away for a while, actually on a mission, trip, whatever the hell he called it.. To Iraq, yeah i miss him like hell, and yeah i love him. He owns me, but only as long as i am comfortable with what he is doing, guys theese people really do trust eachother, and i know you think of rape and forced submission, but that is not what this is, and that is not what BDSM is. I know in person many doms would (and one that has) Do everything possible to stop ANyone forced into this without consent. Rape is bad, all people of the BDSM community know that, what we are doing is not raped, the women and men in submission are not being raped. Please understand this because really it gets to you when someone is saying that the person you love most in the world should go to hell for having sex with you the way they do.
Excuse me, but that’s not BSDM, S&M, whatever – it’s sexual intimidation and rape. There is a very clear difference between the two. Ever heard of consent? If it is not given and the woman is intimidated into doing that sort of thing for the man, it is rape! Do you seriously think that I am being treated as a worthless sex toy simply because my husband is the dom and I am the sub? The deep, underlying foundation of S&M is TRUST. In fact, many people get off more on the fact that they can trust the other person enough to engage in such acts with them than they do off the act itself. I count myself to be so extremely lucky that I found a man I could love and trust enough to share such acts with.
@ Anonymous – Thank you. It is (obviously) quite hard to find people in this world who agree with such opinions.
@jesika
Exactly. There are people who get off doing this sort of thing. Some people LIKE to be controlled to an alarming extent. Like =p says, it’s about trust. From interviews I’ve seen, the sub/slave enjoys playing out this sort of fantasy knowing that their dom/master does not actually intend them any harm. That’s why there are safe words. -_- So no one actually gets hurt. … at least, not more than they WANT to be hurt.
Anyway. No one is forcing anything on anyone. If she didn’t want to do that, she would be struggling a lot more than that.
i find all the judging & prudish comments hilarious. in this day & age i really didn’t think people were this ignorant. bdsm is consenual. it’s obvious that this was for a movie & she was paid well. i just showed the pic to my bf/master & he loves the idea. we plan to do something similar for my collaring ceremony-which is like a wedding to alot of people in the bdsm scene. i’d never force this on my vanilla friends & family- but my kinky family would love it. so get over yourselves. i know for a fact that your vanilla lives are no where near as fun as my kinky life is. you have no clue what you’re missing. in fact, i wouldn’t be surprised if all of you who protest so much, are actually doing things way nastier than even i would do. at least i have standards i live by.
I’m so happy that the kinky ppl have com out to defend this picture. i showed this to my Bf/Master and we now want to plan something like this for our collaring ceremony. there’s nothing wrong with this picture whats wrong is how stuck up and judgmental people are nowadays
Most people aren’t being stuck up.
Judgmental, yes…
But its a form of play that people aren’t used to and there are so many people in the world being raped and intimidated that it’s easy to assume it is the more publicized of the two (BDSM and rape)
@missvamp
what does “vanilla” mean in this context? Just curious.
Vanilla=not kinky.
@Nearly Naked
I’m truly glad to know that you and your wife have a relationship like that. Anyone is blessed to have a happy healthy relationship. As for me, I’m a domestic abuse survivior, so it strikes an painful nerve thats still pulsing under the surface to see something like this.
@bellefemmeici
“vanilla” is the lifestyle term for people not involved in BDSM.
Wow, I was so disappointed to see all the negative, uninformed comments passing judgement on D/s lifestylers based on a single photo. But i was worth it to see so many people come out in support of alternate lifestyles!
@Nearly Naked
I’m with you in being disappointed to find it was staged. I WAS surprised by the picture, but only in as much as I was pleasantly surprised to see what I thought was a very courageous couple doing something many people wouldn’t be brave enough to do (in public). It’s a beautiful concept.
@LostCatgirl
Congratulations to you and your Master on your decision to be collared! I wish you two all the love and joy in the world in exploring the depths of your unique bond.
All the comments about whether this is real or fake. does it matter? the rules that we make in our own heads about our own society is just that, it’s made up! to each there own. get over yourself!
“I hope she bites his leg and chews his Italian leather shoes…”
HAHA XD
i WANNA MARRY
Don’t worry, all you people who are nervous about BD/SM/AC/DC/ISBN/R2D2. If you don’t want them to breed, you can petition that she get spayed.
If it were a man on a leash and the woman walking him down the aisle, all y’all outraged commenters would be saying, “Yeeeahhh!! Ha ha. You go girl!”
NOT ME!
I would be just as mad…
Missvamp,
“i know for a fact that your vanilla lives are no where near as fun as my kinky life is. you have no clue what you’re missing. in fact, i wouldn’t be surprised if all of you who protest so much, are actually doing things way nastier than even i would do. at least i have standards i live by.”
You make no sense. Either “vanillas” are more boring than you are (and have no clue what they’re missing), or they are way more inventive (“nastier”) than you are. Can’t have it both ways.
BTW, I really like your comment on standards. B/C I’m not kinky like that, I have no standards? Judgmental much?
Tried it your way, didn’t like it. I don’t care for the cat-on-a-leash thing — that’s what it looks like to me.
Ever seen horses in the wild? A wild mare CHOOSES who mates her — and she beats the shit out of the stallion whose advances are unwelcome. Call me a wild mare, I guess. Pretty sure my husband would agree.
Sincerely, best wishes on your collaring.
“Ever seen horses in the wild? A wild mare CHOOSES who mates her — and she beats the shit out of the stallion whose advances are unwelcome. Call me a wild mare, I guess. Pretty sure my husband would agree.”
Want to hear another interesting random mating story?
Sharks are one of the oldest surviving organisms on the planet, older than even dinosaurs. From a certain standpoint, you could say they are nearly perfect creatures that have been relatively unchanged for millennia. Truly a wonder of biology.
Know how sharks mate? Up to several males can physically attack and weaken a female enough so they can all effectively rape her. And the circle of life continues beautifully.
What’s my point? Your comparison is silly. You aren’t a mare, you’re a human, and you mate like a human with a higher functioning brain. If you somehow want to glorify silly horse mating patterns, then I want to see you supporting and jump on the gang rape bandwagon for all the shark lovers.
Someone is defending their often publicly feared and derided lifestyle. Give them a break, they don’t have to write a perfectly non-hypocritical thesis on what makes them feel better about themselves.
-1 for evolution understanding fail (about 1100 species around today, as opposed to more than 3000 documented… those around during the END of the dinosaur period are all extinct…)
-1 for not understanding an analogy (if you don’t think a human woman can choose a human man for a mate in much the same way a mare chooses a stallion, you’re just horrifically sexist)
-1 for being a pompous douche
She does not look happy. Does anyone else notice the look on her face? That is my problem.
She is not necessarily supposed to look happy. If her Dom wants her to not look happy she does so. Outward appearences can be deceiving. My (now ex) girlfriend and I dabbled a bit into the whole world of BDSM, and when we were doing things, it was to please me, and to do things the way i wanted to. She agreed to do this every time, and there was never any thought of rape, or taking advantage of her. We shared trust, and she knew i would never hurt her. Many times i made her do things that would be considered by some people to be taboo, and i knew that she got great sexual enjoyment out of it.
If she honestly was not interested, she would tell me no, and I would stop. This woman is only allowing the man to do this because they share a trust and understanding. There is nothing degrading, or shameful about this at all
@NN – Thank you for the information and a very informative post about BDSM and master/slave relationships. I’m glad that there are some people who are educated enough about the physiology behind the BDSM relationships and not freak out, thinking she is being forced to do that.
@Lyn
I’m a sub, and I’m a thinking woman with a personality. My Dom deals with me just fine, thank you.
@missvamp
Sorry if it seemed like I overreacted. Having been a victim of domestic abuse, I’m a bit sensitive. Whatever blows up your skirt, have at it.
Things do get better. Please give yourself time to heal. I am remarried to a man I simply adore and trust completely. I am completely myself with him. BTW, folks “vanilla” doesn’t mean boring!
@Master Dogen
Which, quite frankly, I am thinking of doing. Well, for the ‘other’ ceremony. We can’t decide if we’re doing an official collaring yet or not. But if there’s going to be a bachelor party, he WILL be wearing a chastity device under his clothes!
The second I saw this photo, I thought, ‘Oh. Femsub.’ What a world we live in when a wedding photo of a fully-clothed upright groom and a half-naked bride down on all fours on a lead becomes … ordinary. Even though I’m a domme, I’m hardly a female supremacist. More live and let live. Hey, if that’s your kink — let the freak flag fly. (Erm, so long as it’s safe, sane, and consensual. Of course.)
- M Roulette Chatelaine
@Mistress Roulette Chatelaine
And your reaction is perfectly natural. Being a psychosexual therapist, I try to bridge the gap between kink / BDSM and ‘vanilla’, as they say. The key, is consent. A lot of things that go on in a BDSM relationship unfortunately go on non-consensually in domestic abuse. (Believe it or not, I have been there, too, so I know it on a more intimate level.) Which is why it automatically incites outrage to see a woman on a lead being held by a man, and not vice versa. Hell, if it were a lesbian kinky wedding, there would still be more tolerance. But we’re societally programmed to freak out at such things given the militant feminist movement and the presence of domestic violence.
In many ways, it’s a sad world we live in. That’s why I have to give props to those who face certain things unafraid of the controversy it might engender. Well, within reason. If she didn’t want to be in that collar, believe me — she wouldn’t be. That’s not how submission works. Remember — key, is consent.
Get some therapy yourself.
Really? She needs therapy because she understands that some people consent to such things and some people are manipulated or abused into it? Really?
I agree with her. The issue here is consent. If both partners have consented to this lifestyle then that is their choice & must be respected
@Wild Red Roan
‘Ever seen horses in the wild? A wild mare CHOOSES who mates her — and she beats the shit out of the stallion whose advances are unwelcome. Call me a wild mare, I guess. Pretty sure my husband would agree.’
That is awesome about the wild mare metaphor. I have to agree, actually. Brilliant.
@In the Know
Hmmm. I wonder if WE know each other.
@NN
AH! I knew I recognised her, but then it could’ve still been legit. After all, this happens with regular frequency out here in Hollywood. (No tin inpunded.)
@Anonymous
Honey, you haven’t seen any fem-dom videos recently. Trust me. The fairer sex is MORE than retaliating. Rest assured.
@Kittymouth
‘I count myself to be so extremely lucky that I found a man I could love and trust enough to share such acts with.’
Very well said. I left out ‘trust’. It’s about consent AND trust. In fact, the beauty of BDSM is being able to be so completely stripped of the regular BS that goes on in having a multi-dimensional personality. To get to the core of who we are and share that with one who loves and accepts us completely.
It’s a rare and beautiful thing. Maybe not what’s depicted here in femsub-actress!bride and maledom-actor!groom, but behind closed doors all over this big blue ball. That’s what makes it worth it.
I have seen the video this picture came from… wow the acting is bad. They would have to pay her to get her within 20 feet of that dork. I think his glasses are thick enough to stop bullets.
If she looked happy about it I’d think differently, also the fact that females are the superior creatures… I mean…um… Hey we don’t even need men anymore, we have enough frozen man seed and are far along enough with technology to eradicate the male species.
Males aren’t a species, we’re a GENDER.
tbh I just don’t get it. If you have to do things like this to feel love or get your jollies, idk that just doesn’t seem right. Sure I can accept a bit of roleplay if you want to spice up your life. Cop and robber or something like that.
But going so far as to actually act like a slave, an animal, or worse? I’m sorry but even if I won’t say change your life style, I don’t think I can really be accepting or open of it as in my eyes it just is to strange, to bizare and to wrong.
I mean seriously who would really enjoy being, it looks like, naked in public, on a collar and lead? That doesn’t sound ‘sexually exellerating’ or ‘true love’. It feels more like humiliation than anything else.
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“that just doesn’t seem right.” TO YOU.
“it just is to strange, to bizare and to wrong.” TO YOU.
“That doesn’t sound ’sexually exellerating’ or ‘true love’.” TO YOU.
So are the rest of us supposed to organize our sex lives around what makes sense to you? Fuck that.
Ummm, duh. She’s just looking for her contacts.
Y’know, it really irritates me that people think of D/s or M/s as being exclusively Male/female and thus immediately reacting – “oh, it’s all about men having power over women and abusing them!” It’s not. There are plenty of couples in which the woman is dominant, and there are also plenty of gay couples of both genders. It’s just like vanilla that way.
The dynamics of the relationship are different – instead of being so individualistic, the two are truly one person. It is a very beautiful thing. My slave and I are very close and he has told me more than once that my control completes him and makes him feel secure and more like a human being. Who, if you loved a person, wouldn’t want to be able to make him (or her) feel that way?
I agree with everyone who was sad that this was staged, I feel like that kind of thing just turns our lifestyle into “just another weird fetish”.
@Random
You should look around the world (or hey, even just the Internet) a little more closely if you are really so naive as to believe people cannot enjoy these things. Someday my James and I are going to go out in public with the leash and collar just to laugh at people like you.
Beautifully said.
I found the picture rather erotic. And as long as a relationship is truly equal and both sides are both able to choose and are truly happy with their choice together, then where’s the harm in it being this way or that way?
Yes. Too bad it’s utter bullshit. Herd stallions exercise complete and total control over their equine families, to the point of running off females who refuse to submit and killing males who try to breed.
So, the point is superficially accurate: a “wild mare” does choose whether or not to be bred. She can certainly select a life of quiet isolation from her herd if she chooses, because the herd stallion will kick her tight little ass right out of the herd if she tries to say “nay”
to him. However an 850 lb female is not going to “beat the shit” out of a 1400 pound herd stallion that routinely drives away other males to protect his breeding rights– although it may amuse you to believe that it happens.
Common sense check: female horses almost NEVER engage in any form of combat. Stallions, on the other hand, protect the herd from predators and also engage in ritualistic dominance displays with each other prior to and throughout the breeding season.
Given that one gender is both accomplished and experienced and the other is not, and one gender is also on average 15% larger, stronger, and faster than the other… who is REALLY going to get the shit beaten from them in a throwdown between stallion and mare? Remember that wild horses don’t have domestic dispute laws to even the odds for the mares.
You really should make a study of animal breeding habits prior to sounding off on them. In nearly ALL mammalian species, males are dominant breeding partners, and your analogies are particularly inapt, “Wild Red Roan”, given that even if they happened to be true for equines, in the primate group I assume you belong to males are naturally dominant.
So, while you are commenting about horses, a much more accurate metaphor would be the chimpanzee (female submissive, male dominant during breeding) or the mountain gorilla (female submissive, male dominant), or even the pygmy marmoset (You go ahead and guess).
You’re wiser now. Probably not happier, but much better informed than you were.
-K-
guess we know who’s dominant in your relationship
SO, K, you think rape, control, and power are the male’s birthright; and the only thing that “even’s the playing field” are domestic dispute laws?
My my what an enlightened individual you are; barely out of the cave I see. However did you learn to use a computer?
It’s men like you that give all men a bad name. You may be right that in most ground-dwelling primates males are dominant but they also function as the the protectors of females and offspring. With power comes responsibility or the species cannot survive.
Furthermore not all men hate, control, and abuse women. Some men want to be higher creatures than primates.
Oh by the way female hyenas are dominant; Females are dominant in several species of birds-of-prey; as well as many species of arachnids; and some species of fish. In humans individual females have trained and conditioned their bodies to fight alongside men in military combat, to stand toe to toe in boxing, martial arts, and many other fields.
As a more evolved being you must account for individual determination. My wife is a third degree black belt. I’d much rather have a woman who can stand by my side as a companion; look at me with respect rather than horror; I’d rather have a woman speak my name with pleasure then scream in terror.
But then again I don’t have mommy issues and a massive inferiority complex
On a more humorous note. Perhaps she just did not want to get her dress wet while she tried to adapt her favorite childhood outdoor game of slip and slide into her wedding? The look on her face could merely be due to the fact that she had never done this nude before (and of course, while wearing a collar). All I can say is, to each their own, I guess. Not my cup of tea ~ but it takes all kinds to make this world go round.
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I’ve never been happier than when I was in a relationship based on this principal and I was in total control of what happened to me and how far my Dom could go. I”d love to get married like this.
The “bride” is Jewell Marceau, and I believe this was filmed for a kinky website – as in, this was not real.
That being said, I was hurt and disappointed to read many of the comments here from people not in the lifestyle. You can be ignorant about the kinky lives of others, you can hate it, be grossed out about it, and you can even broadcast it because thank God in the US of A, we have protected free speech.
But you should realize you’re insulting and offending real people who in fact aren’t stupid. I was shocked by the hurtful comments posted here.
And hey – all they’re doing is enjoying their protected right of free expression.
on the other hand, aren’t we all (on both sides) doing that same thing?
You can’t tell someone that they can’t express how they feel. Unless you are in turn willing to give up your own right to free speech.
It is a two way street. everyone is just saying it how they see it
You realise she wasn’t telling them to stfu? She was simply reminding them that what they say does in fact offend? Maybe you should pay more attention to the comment you are responding to before posting.
Wow, I really thought this blog would attract smarter and hipper readers. I mean you people really thought that this woman was being sexually abused, and this blog posted a pic of it? Yeah, I’m sure the mod of WEDINATOR loves having cops kick his/her door in. Go get a clue, why don’t you? And while you’re at it, keep your ignorant judgements of others’ sexual tastes to yourself.
OK i get the whole D/S kink, bend there, done that. And I understand that she consented and that who ever is running the show wanted here to look like that. It doesn’t change the fact that my first and strongest reaction was disgust. In fact, kudos to her for eliciting that reaction from me.
Just because someone doesn’t understand the photo, or is concerned for the woman, doesn’t mean they are hating on the everyone. They are simply reacting with the amount of information they have at that moment.
True, but there are also people saying that that lifestyle is wrong. So long as they consent, even if it is “wrong” there is nothing anyone can do to stop it.
As a submissive woman, i find the picture kinda romantic – too bad the “bride” has such a sour expression on her face. i’d be grinning ear to ear!
whoa…(frowns)
Jewell Marceau
Please remove this photo. This is sad. If it’s real Im in fear that she might be in danger. She looks to be a victim.
Not real bright, are you? Not only was it revealed months ago in comments that this is all consensual, but it should have gone without saying that this site isn’t going to post photos of real sexual abuse. Really, what photoblog would post a photo of a violent crime, and think they’re clear?
Seconded. This is not a happy photo. And, anyways- all marriage is is an ownership contract over a woman anyway. It is obsolete. Ugh.
wow…. wtbf people? Why get so upset? As numerous people have no doubt pointed out, not only is this a screen-shot from a movie, but BDSM involves trust and consent. Otherwise it’s rape which, guess what, is a kink that is utterly unrelated. Sometimes. Usually it’s a violent crime that is utterly about power… Anyway I’m kinda rambling here, all I wanted to say here was this:
It’s okay. Even if she isn’t enjoying herself visually, I’m sure she’s enjoying it on some level or she wouldn’t have let it happen. A girl who looks like that likely has options. Also, person whose name I forget, You’re right. If had been him on a leash, people would be like “you go girl.” It’s not right to have double standards like that. Gee. I’m and I know better. Anyway, peace love and contentment, my fellow humans.
No, I don’t think anyone should be on a leash- cisman, ciswoman, transman, transwoman, whatever. I suppose, IF it was consentual… I think it’s a slippery slope.
Not even if they want to be? Not even if they get off on it??
holy shit! everyone freak out about a pic on the INTERNET!
Also in a BDsM relationship the sub has the main power, She can call safe words or say forget this crap buddy I am outta here. Also since they are obviously kinsters , how do you know that this ceremony wasn’t for her collaring or just for their friends in the fetish lifestyle? And as Devium stated above he was correct on his statement as was =p . As a well known bumper sticker says” BDsM is knot for everyone.”
I myself have a difficult past plagued by abuse but I still found my way in to the lifestyle and have enjoyed it quite well for many years now. our past does not dictate what our future is we can decide to deal with our past and go forward from there.
also for lost cat girl congratulations on your collaring I hope your ceremony was everything you wanted it to be.
In addition, I’ve seen subs who were concentrating on a task, even as simple as crawling without tripping on whatever they’re wearing. Their faces can look, angry, fearful, sad, or even bored. It is mostly because they are concentrating so much their face falls to some default concentration look that looks like something else to others.
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Look, after reading all these comments, I couldn’t help but respond. I was sad to see the look on her face because she looked so miserable, until I saw the collar and realized that she wanted to be there and I was happy for her to be so open about what she wanted and who she was. I was sad to find that it was staged. I wish more people could be more comfortable with what they wanted, and expressing it and THEIR day. It’s not about the family or friends, it’s about THEM and tying their lives together.
I’m not really in the lifestyle, but I have dabbled; and I have to say, as a switch, it’s very fulfilling for BOTH parties if they communicate and trust each other. It’s liberating to be who you truly want to be. And, if you can’t be who you want behind closed (or open) doors with someone you care about, then that is a truly sad state of affairs. As for the people who have been abused, I’m sorry and I’ve been there too. But the bdsm lifestyle is not about that. ABUSE is always wrong. The difference is consent. A sub has much more power than a dom. If they don’t like or want something, it stops, immediately with a safe word. As for those who were inspired for their own collarings, congratulations! I wish you the very best for your deep bond.
Oh, and for those who are disgusted or horrified, no one is asking you to be that girl in the picture! No one is asking you to like it or get off to it. Being that judgmental about something that you don’t understand or care to be more informed about is sad and silly.
Oops, I accidentally sent it in before I was done.
Where was I? Right, sad and silly.
We, as a people, should be tolerant of others and understand that people come in all shapes, sizes, and fetishes. That doesn’t make them disgusting, just different
THAT IS SO SAD I HOPE DAT THIS IS A JOKE IF NOT I WANT TO SLAP EVERY 1 OF THOSE PPL AND TORCHER THEM AND CRAP ON THEIR FACES HOW COULD THIS BE FUNNY??????????????????????????????? IF THIS IS NOT PHOTO SHOP OR A FAKE THAT GUY IS A BASTARD AND A PERV
Not the brightest crayon in the box, are we?
I’m thinking a deep mauve, probably.
Eh, mauve has too much personality. I’m guessing a very flat gray.
okay, can’t even try. I’m going to say black. no hinge of bright.
I thought it was genuine and she was in her zone! He could have done her in real good before the ceremony, and maybe she is spacing…. Don’t knock it (or JUDGE it) til you try it. I’m green with envy…
Beautiful. Not the picture – staged as it is – but how many fellow people from the BDSM community that come out to stand up for their lifestyle, their desires, and their sexuality.
I’m always uplifted when people guilty of hate-crimes (be that against ethnic, sexual, racial, or other groups) are called out by those that they try to turn into victims for their personal holocausts. It can only give you hope for the species.
I think this is stupid as fuck. And of course all the men on this website are gonna defend the groom, cause you’re all horn dogs who think it’s hot. This is a wedding where family and friends come to watch. I’d be pissed as fuck if I saw someone I knew doing this shit.
I know she’s acting, but when I first saw the pic, I didn’t, and the fact that she was in a position that many women would personally consider to be degrading and humiliating, combined with the less than happy look on her face, did cause me concern. Frankly, without knowing much about BDSM culture, and without knowing she’s an actress, she looks pretty miserable.
For those practicing this lifestyle, especially submissives who are annoyed by others’ concerns, it might be good to remember that there ARE plenty of people, women especially, who are in relationships in which they are submissive because they are afraid to be any other way. From the outside, those might look like BDSM; who else but you and your partner know if you have a safe word or not? Saying that no one would do what she is doing except of her own free will is saying that there is no such thing as an abusive relationship. Suppose she weren’t an actress and this were a real photo of a real wedding. How does practicing BDSM give any of you any more real knowledge of what is going on in her head—HER head—than I have? It doesn’t. You’re just basing it off how *you* would feel, same as I am. Human nature.
So many times, so many horrible things come from people not being concerned for their fellow human beings. Why in the world would you ever get upset because one person cares enough about another person to worry that she might be hurting or trapped?
here here!
If we saw something like this in real life it would not be natural to just assume she had made an informed decision to join a D/S lifestyle. We simply do not know the truth of the situation and there is nothing wrong with being concerned for a fellow human being.
If she is willing & happy then so be it, it’s her life, but if not then I would run in with a blanket & rescue her.
Ehh….I know people still look at this post, so for all of you curious, this film is from PetGirls. She’s one of the free preview pics on the site. Which one of their films is she on, I don’t know.
While this isn’t my bag really, and though it’s not an actual wedding shot (heh), to anyone who wants to do this, there is no problem whatsoever! Certainly better than quite a few of the wedding themes displayed on the site.
Though I’m not a BSDM person myself, I know a few people that are and they enjoy it. To each their own. : D
its not like i dont think there is no love….. but for me, i think its a bit degrading.
well, it doesnt look like she is having any fun, but who knows
and now, everyone and their grandmother knows what she looks like naked, doggie style >.<
I am in a BSDM relationship(Me as the Dom and my boyfriend as the Sub) and we plan to have a BSDM wedding. I see was dissapointed to find out that it wasn’t real though…
Whatever you do behind closed doors?: GOOD.
(your business)
The fact that this is NOT behind closed doors?: NOT GOOD.
(everybody’s business)
The fact that you made your friends and relatives spend a few hours of their lives AND bring you an expensive gift as well?: PRICELESS.
Are you also of the opinion that gay men and women shouldn’t be allowed to have public wedding/commitment/whatever ceremonies? Because it’s much the same thing. Why does the D/s lifestyle in particular have to be hidden behind closed doors? If they’re a 24/7 couple, their wedding absolutely SHOULD be outside the bedroom – because then it’s the truth. Having a conventional ceremony when you’re not a conventional couple seems incredibly hypocritical.
I’m getting married in October. My fiancee/Master and I are planning two ceremonies – one for the friends & family who wouldn’t appreciate being confronted with our lifestyle, and one for the friends & family who are cool with it. We respect the people in our lives – why would you assume this couple would be forcing their lifestyle on those who didn’t accept it? (I know the picture is staged, but I’m running with the concept.)
I realize that there are plenty of PEOPLE (not just women) who are abused in this world. But this picture (real or staged) is not that. One can advocate or at least accept a D/s lifestyle choice for some while abhorring abuse. I find it amusing when people insist they would be equally upset at seeing a similar picture with a male on his hands and knees. I’d love to point at laugh at the explosion of “Woohoo! Good for her!” posts.
I’m so glad I’ve seen this photo. While I won’t be nude, I’m definitely going to crawl down the aisle like this. It’s not about humiliation for me either – it’s a fantastic expression of the control and trust I give my Master.
So sez I.
I LOVE THIS!!!!! ♥
I’d want to start my wedding night off similar to this..I wouldn’t be comfortable crawling naked amongst my guests because I don’t love and trust and want to submit to them like I do to my boyfriend, but if he put me on a leash as we walked down the aisle, it’d make my day.
Me and my bf generally switch roles quite often, but I’m generally more submissive, but a pretty girly/bratty sub.. it’s fun teasing him, I might be a sub but we know I’m in control – and we both love it. When I do eventually pop the question, I’m showing him this picture first
…. a rhinestone leash?! Yes please
♥
of course coupled with ivory/white ankle and wrist cuffs and a nice lace blindfold
Sheesh.
If I were her, I’d die of embarrassment.
The look on her face looks like:
“OH S*** THERE’S A BEE!”
Just my two cents.
The thing is we DON’T KNOW if this is a D/S relationship that she has willingly & consciously chosen or if she is just a well trained woman with no self esteem.
I understand that people have the right to their choice of lifestyle but BDSM should ALWAYS be with well-informed consenting adults wherein all parties’ boundaries are respected. All the posts from BDSM practitioners assuming she is willing & happy are just as biased as everyone assuming she is manipulated & abused. We just DON’T know the full story.
Though I personally feel she does NOT look happy, she doesn’t look like someone entering into an equal partnership, she does not look like someone who is being loved, honored, & respected.
Another stolen pic with a forged URL. Model is Jewell Marceau. Wedinator – stop showing other people’s pics with your URL pasted on the bottom. That’s T-H-E-F-T
Hahaha, and the mother, and her grandmother, are sitting behind her, saying; “Hmm…I agree about the fact that dresses are expensive….but I had such a nice sweater she could borrow…
My god, why? That’s hot.
I don’t know, if they were as smart as you say, they’d easily realize that this blog can’t possibly depict sexual abuse and not earn a visit from the authorities. I mean come on, how was that not obvious?
It is correct that the woman in the photo is a BDSM actress. An award winning one at that, but I won’t mention her name. Highly successful at what she does and perhaps the hardest working woman in her discipline of adult entertainment. So for those of you who look at the photo feeling sorry for her, that’s just how good she is at portraying such a role. She knows exactly what she’s doing…..all the way to the bank, so I wouldn’t take this so seriously by feeling sorry for her.
yeah, why?? this IS hot!
It’s BDSM. Humiliation is more than likely her thing!
I’d love to know the title of the film this still was taken from?
ahh men.. great arn’t they?
SOOOO glad I am not the only one. (not this particular picture… but still)
yeah…hot… Unless you picture it being your daughter, sister, or mother.
I understand the D/S thing… but it shouldn’t be displayed outside the bedroom imho
I agree with Jean C. The site owner would not get harassed by the authorities if the woman were obeying her masted & claimed she consented. Sometimes (NO NOT ALL THE TIME) people do get manipulated or abused into staying in a situation that they would prefer not to be in.
If I saw this I would ask the person on the leash (female OR male) if they were okay. If she/he looked me in the eyes & firmly said YES they wanted to be there then I’d STFU & back off. I respect people’s right to choose the BDSM lifestyle but No I’m not going to automatically assume it’s consenting when I don’t know these people or if they are willing. I’d hope witnesses would be so concerned for my daughter or son!
Well even if those involved employed such a technicality, this site would be pretty fucked up, and I certainly wouldn’t support it, if it was posting photos of sexual abuse. Good thing it (clearly) isn’t.
Well I think that with what’s in that photo, the logical assumption is that it’s staged and/or consensual. Yes, it COULD not be, but something like that ending up in a mainstream photoblog is just, IMNSHO, highly unlikely.
Anyway, I do like irony.
It’s happened. I saw the most horribly disturbing graphic photo in a mainstream website once — sure it wasn’t up for long but that’s not the point. {I KNOW the person involved was not consenting because she was a crying & bleeding child} In fact, I once had an ex post illicit pictures of me on the internet without my consent.
You’re obviously a highly intelligent man so perhaps it is easy for you to see things from the most logical perspective but I don’t think it’s fair to assume people are stupid or judgmental for having an emotional reaction to something like this- especially if they witnessed abuse at some point in their life. There are a LOT of judgmental people out there who will call us freaks & tell us to keep it in the bedroom so I find it far less offensive when someone says something like “are you sure you like this sort of thing?”
not judgmental.
Anyway I think for the most part people have been concerned, intrigued, or excited by this picture
Peace, Zoe S.