“Marriage is said to be one of the most joyous occasions in one’s life. But joy isn’t the exact word that can describe this man’s mood. Forget being happy; this groom is light years away from even smiling.” Wow. I haven’t seen anyone freak out like this since that awful bee scene in My Girl. Is he allergic to his hot wife??
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NOTHING about that indicates “berserk”
I consider rubbing your face profusely and moaning going berserk. What do you consider going berserk? (sincere question)
agreed, you call that berzerk? THIS is bers… anyway… he’ll probably end up throwing fuel or boiling water over her and get his wish
Poor guy, please, someone tell him there’s a WONDERFUL thing called divorce.
In the U.S. there is… I’m not sure what the cultural and economic ramifications of divorce (*if* it’s even an option) are in that area of India.
In fact, India has the lowest rate of divorce in the world with just about 1%.
In my opinion, it may be due to the cultural roots, where marriage is more than just a contract between two people.
Or maybe it’s because no matter how bad a marriage is, the woman rarely has an independent means of financial support and basically just deals with what’s handed to her because divorce would mean a. loss of financial support and b. ostracization including from her own family.
It’s changing now. I don’t think the rate is still 1%
your both right. My ex was In America on a work visa and we fell in love. His parents were so shocked and offended that he was with an American girl that they talked him into breaking up with me. They convinced him that all Americans get divorced. but to be honest we had out rockey points anyway. He could not stand me driving or having a job and kept telling me his mother is dependent on his father and they are just fine.
I’m good friends with someone who went to school in the US, but was raised in India. Basically, from talking with him, you’re right.. It’s mostly cultural.
An absence of divorce certainly doesn’t = happy marriages.
my parents are from bangladesh (which was india not long ago and has very similar culture). i was bon in britain.
divorce is VERY fowned upon and if a woman asks for divorce she is ostracized by her own family and the whole community. i have a cousin who was forced into marriage and hated it for >13 years and suffered domestic violence and stuff before finally getting a divorce. she lives in britain where she could get more outside support but she still is on very bad terms with her family because of this.
if she was in bangladesh it would’ve been A LOT harder for her to get a divorce, and maybe not even possible. like DocSavage said, a low divorce rate =/= happy marriages.
Bangladesh isn’t INdia anymore. 60 some years change the makeup of society. IF one were to look at religion’s influence on society, Hinduism in INdia grants more liberty and in Islamic society as that of bangladesh. If were to look at society that is. I don’t think you can genralize Bangladesh to INdia at all. Every aspect- infrastructure, economy, society shows huge differences. But yes, I agree with your last statement.
Actually there is divorce in India. It is just looked down on and a general no no, but it does exist. The divorce rates in India are actually going up now.
I hate men like that. Most probably this girl’s family is poor. And well…after convincing this girl he was in “love” with her and having an obvious relationship with her…when it comes to real commitment, forget about love! What love? My mother’s not going to let me marry a poor girl! I don’t want to marry a poor girl! Then again, I am speculating. And wohoo! I got first. =P
WHAT?
You are the living embodiment of FAIL.
Well the problem here is that she was dating him and he kidnapped her or whatever and now no other guy in India is going to want a “used” girl. That is why I am assuming they forced him to marry her.
Oh. Darn. I didn’t get first. =( But yeah, that is also a possibility. I hope I didn’t get called the living embodiment of fail just for stating my views…I hope it was for the first thing. But yeah, it happens in India a lot. Everyone wants to marry a decent girl. But there are a lot of street boys who waste their time bugging girls and well..when it comes to marriage no commitment. I think you might be right Wedding Crasher! That’s probably the case. His mother isn’t happy with it…anyways. I don’t feel sorry for that guy at all. Just disgusted.
I think that not everyone knows that India clings to the Dowry system.
Marrying a poor girl may mean that his family will no longer talk to him. Marrying the girl he was forced to marry for abusing her…will expose him as a douchebag.
I can’t think of many reasons that a man would be forced into marriage like this where he would get upset.
You know, unless he hates his culture and wants to move to San Francisco.
That could be a reason. But one thing that is a little shaky is the fact India clings to the dowry system. Dowry means the things a girl brings with her to her new house. Something her parents give her to get started with in life. Like in America, some parents help their children buy a house or contribute to their new life in some sort of way. Similarily, it is for the couple. One of the things my mom brought with her as a gift from her parents was, what in America its called, is a mo-ped. But there was no talk of dowries. My dad’s family never asked for a dowry. For the majority of Indian families…a dowry isn’t a bribe, its a CHANCE for the bride’s parents to send her somethign that would make her life more comfortable in her husband’s house. I hope that clears things up. But there are always those who want to exploit it..and sadly, no one wants to marry into a family like that unless there is some sort of desperation invovled. But I agree..this guy obviously wasn’t getting a great ‘deal’ on his wife. Her family wasn’t probably rich with status..but he used her so he has to pay for it. And thats why his mother was like “what status will we get? Shes just a nobody! Don’t marry her!” Idiot he is.
Parul, you’re probably right about his reasons for being upset, but pragmatically speaking almost all marriages are about getting something for something.
Money and status are pretty common.. In the US, it’s also fairly common to marry for the sake of not dying alone, which is as bad as using someone for material gains imo..
I believe only a lucky few marry for idealized reasons.
That is very understandable! I gues thats a take on life…although it isn’t necessarily my take..=)
This can only end badly…:/
It almost seems like they drugged him before they drug him there.
Indian culture is not our culture. He was clearly honor bound to marry her.
You’re right – it’s not like “our” culture.
It’s a backward, primative culture where it makes much more sense to let thousands of people starve on a daily basis while cows crap all over everything and hold up traffic simply because they might have been someone’s grandmother in another life.
A culture of ignorance and poverty which makes up ONE THIRD of the world’s population and STILL keeps cranking out millions of dirt-poor, starving children every year.
And yes, a culture that thinks it’s completely acceptable for a mob of “youths” to physically assualt a man and beat him into submission and force him to go through a sham of a religious ceremony to marry a woman he CLEARLY doesn’t want to marry. And all the time SHE’S the victim?
“Culture” is the lamest excuse for acting like a complete douche bag in the history of the world.
You forgot the caste system that allows people born into certain families to treat others not born into those castes to be treated like crap. They have a low caste called the dalits. They are treated worse than dogs. They disguise their young women to look like men so when the teenage boys come through at night to rape anything female – they will not be raped. It is illegal to teach a dalit to read and write. Sad. Backwards. and yes – their culture. I’ve worked over there to get people educated and out of the slums. Read a book called “The women of Lahore.” It will open your eyes.
Lahore is in Pakistan. FYI. And you know the first thing my culture teaches me, you two? What morals are. What values are. And my morals tell me not to start calling you things as any proud American/Brit/whatever would do for your IGNORANT remarks and racist comments. In India..a marriage is a holy means to life. It is not a marriage between a man and a wife- it is a relation of two families. Instead of wasting time with random chicks, a woman is given honor and importance. In this case. Injustice was done. This man toyed with the woman- kidnapping her and now when it comes to commitment, he says no? Because he wants someone better. He basically used her, and well- the youth forced him to take accord of his actions. For if he doesn’t marry her- her whole life is ruined. No man would marry her and she will be a burden on her parents. Because in India, there are such thing as cultural values. these values are respected. And when a man cannot respect a woman- he must take charge of his actions. And by the way- your ignorance is quite gross. By the way..reincarnation doesn’t work that way. It works for all living beings, ok. Clearly, you don’t know what you are talking about. Cows are respected because of cows milk, a mother’s milk..because of the fact Lord Krishna was a cowherder because Lord Shiva’s animal is a cow. Because cows are representive of mothers- what makes you grow. And it is not illegal to teach a ‘dalit’ to read an write because India does not support the caste system. No legal law states that. India is the world’s biggest democracy- no law can state the ignorance you both have shown. Maybe you should stop driving your SUVs since Americans contribute the the most amount of global warming. India is a growing country- if we had not welcomed the British with open arms- had not been a culture of honesty…we too would be like the western world. Before calling another culture backwards without knowing not even the basics..is called ignorance. I suggest you stop hating the fact people in India have respect for animals, respect for women, and respect for humanity. If such a culture is so primative, then I am happy it is. Because being ‘modern’ means being a cheat, according to you. And sorry- but we would rather be peaceful honest folk. And to us..you just might be a little backwards. Thank god the mob of youths found justice for the woman. Thank god not everyone is racist and makes ignorant remarks without even the shred of truth! But my culture teaches me to respect another’s. I hope your conscience teaches you the same- to respect. Thank you.
*This*^^^^ – good on you Parul
So marriage is a holy means to life best achieved by committing a second wrong (marriage against one’s will) because a first wrong (the shameful treatment of the woman) was committed first.
Not to mention the fact that this situation wouldn’t exist if said culture wasn’t so backwards and misogynistic as to tell a woman she’s worth nothing now that another man has touched her.
Why would I want to respect that? I’ll grant that it’s India’s culture. I’ll further grant that there are moral/ethical problems with every culture because human being are morally and ethically flawed. I’m not asking anyone reading this to accept a claim that American/Russian/Chinese/Vulcan culture is ‘better,’ but the fact that abuses are universal doesn’t make abuses acceptable.
Anyone who defends human rights abuses as acceptable simply because they’re cultural is a walking sack of fail. White, black, yellow, red, or brown–failsacks every one.
…Who says culture claims she is worth nothing once another man has touched her? Nothing in my culture says so. You call it backwards for saying so..but my culture doesn’t at all claim women don’t have value if they’ve been “touched.” So how is it backwards, Joel? Anyone who thinks that lowly has a character flaw. I don’t see why people are blaming character flaws on culture. In today’s society in India..no one frankly cares, thus making this particular story interesting. Here it is people! Some guy who has a serious character flaw and people blame everything wrong with culture. So Joel, I would think your argument null and void. Again- where do you get this information? I only said he “used her so her whole life is ruined.” yeah..it is. Do you know why? Because ‘they are in love’ and he just doesn’t want to comit for hes probably looking for better options. Men like that don’t care about ‘love’..just for better options. So stop making false claims.
Oh an also….I doubt you will find any other culture that respects women as much as in India. Because if there was one thing to describe my culture it would be seriously “respect.” Respect for one’s parents..means supporting them their whole life..not sendign them off to some old age home. Respect for children means not kicking them out at 18. Respect for family bonds means festivals like “raksha bandhan” which is a symbol the brother will always protect his sister his whole life. Respect for parents that the child will grow up and support his/her parents financially for the parents who took such pains to raise him. Respect for one another, where friendships are as strong as brotherly bonds. I’m sorry…but the way a woman is respected in Indian/Hindu society…seeing our main goddesses being obviously female, I don’ think you can say such claims. I don’ think you know a thing about my culture if you haven’t experienced it first hand. Please..spare your ignorant remarks. You really are embarrasing yourself.
You said: “For if he doesn’t marry her- her whole life is ruined. No man would marry her and she will be a burden on her parents. Because in India, there are such thing as cultural values.”
So where’s her value / worth according to her own culture? You’re talking out both sides of your mouth. And your hysterical attempts to claim cultural validity at Failblog of all places are hilarious.
Once again Joel. you proved your ignorance well! When I say in India there are such thing as cultural values..I mean the fact she will be a burden on her parents. In India..a child is supposed to take care of their parents once they are able to do so…for all heir parents have done for their future. So your staement that it was the cultuers fault of not having her worth is completely nulled. No culture of mine states a woman has no worth once she has been taken advantage of. It supports the opposite in reality. Read my above posts…about how people in India respect women. Now the reason I said no man would mary her is because shes claimed love for another if you watched the video. And even after her ‘kidnapping’ she was still happily in love with another. No man would marry a girl who has openly claimed to society she loves another man and has in the past, escaped with him even though he kidnapped her…which she was ok with. No shred of culture influences this! THere ya go, Joel…I hope that answers your question of where her value/worth is according to her own culture. It is the same. And the attempts you call hysterical are a point of pride for me. Thats the difference between you and me. NOtice you said “validity”..which shows what you are doing by your comments…changing the validity of my culture because you think you know about it. But it just goes to show…you don’t. And it is important for me to clarify this up because its not time wastage to clear up gross generalizations people make about your culture. The day I let people do that and let it slide and laugh it off, no matter how sarcastic it may be and throgh whatever medium be it failblog, is the day I loose myself. Its necessary, this view. Someone has to say it. And I don’t regret it one bit. Its our (indians’) culture we are talking about! I’m not going to let such blatant ignorance become the face of our identity!
Parul,
Your posturing and self-aggrandizing amuses me. Claiming that universities beg you to study with them is simply one example. If true, you’re an arrogant twat for bringing it up and illogical for thinking that intelligence alone gives a person–any person–carte blanche to speak towards a topic. If false, it’s a pathetic claim.
Just so we’re clear, what I find amusing is your ham-handed defense of the worst aspects of Indian culture as if anyone on the Internet cares about anything you have to say.
No one on the Internet cares what I think, either. The difference is that I’m aware of that–and you apparently aren’t. Please continue to use your coffee breaks and time away from providing Dell tech support to elucidate the finer points of Indian culture. I particularly enjoy the sections in which you explain the worship of cattle.
Hugs and Kisses,
Me.
Haha Joel. I shall. Seeing as I’m 17 and still in high school! So yes, after having Universities offer me some full-rides I think I can make that claim. Especially when people like Ben are claiming things about how America would be better off without Indians. Well thats just one reason we are here. I never wanted to come off as arrogant. In fact, I find it quite funny that when you have nothing better left to say…you resort to attacking the poster than the argument. That, Joel, is a sign of a weak argument. And such arguments cannot last long for they are usually defending a false view. The day you mature and stop railing on the poster but find reasonable arguments/stick to the argument, is the day you will prove your point right. As of now, I don’t mind the fact people don’t care what I hae to say. All I know is, I CARE what I have to say..for its a matter of the face of my identity. I’m not going to let blatant ignorance become the face of it. And if no one cares, Mr. Joel, you might not want to waste YOUR precious coffee breaks and workign at McDonalds time to support your teenage mother of a wife. Please, no offense to anyone, but it is a direct comparison of wht Joel said about “dell tech support” to me. And FYI- people would need tech support when there wren’t so many people in the western world who didn’t know how to work their pc. So have a great day Mr. Joel! Once again, you’ve proven to be so mature as to completely forget the argument and resort to “your so arrogant!”
Good day!
Parul,
In this case, I can’t pretend I care long enough to actually do more than skim your latest reply. Congratulations. You win the thread.
I will note, for the sake of accuracy, that I don’t think America would be better off without Indians–I don’t think we’re an intrinsically better race than any other. I think your defenses of Indian culture are hilarious, but I wouldn’t want you to get the wrong idea–American culture is every bit as hypocritical, wrong-headed, and just plain stupid.
I wouldn’t want you to think my misanthropy was racist in its origin. I’m equally contemptuous of all, including me.
Mr. Joel- Sorry…I can’t seem to reply to your post below, so I’ll reply to it right here. Thank you very much. I understand completely. I’m glad we’ve come to terms. And its a great relief to hear that your “misanthropy” was racist in origin, even though your previous posts suggested it as so. I shouldn’t have jumped to conclusions about your nature upon being appalled at you calling my culture ‘backwards’ and etc. But its worth appriase that you awknowleged there was nothing left to say. I don’t know if the “congrats. you win the thread’ was sarcastic or not, but trust me..I was in no favour of ‘winning’. I didn’t percieve it that way. I was just appalled by ignorant remarks and I felt it my duty to clear some misconceptions up. thank you for a very pleasing discussion.
Parul
All the cows you are NOT eating produce more fumes than our SUV’s.
Save the planet, eat more cows.
Save the planet, stop breeding terrorists like Osama Bin Laden through greed of oil in Saudi Arabia. And while you’re at it too, stop meddling in other countries’ business for personal profit. It eventually comes to bite you back.
I would just like to mention that not all ignorant/eurocentric people are American, and not all Americans are ignorant and euro or ethnocentric. I agree that the comments you were upset by were made by people ignorant of your way of life and cultural history (and quite offensive, tbh), but I would just like to add in that as an American, I don’t appreciate being thrown in with their lot simply because of my homeland.
Thank you, though, for giving us a better insight on the situation.
You know whats funny? that the same kid who manuvers through cowdung and lives between the poor in that lifestyle still manages to take your jobs and learns life values and lessons. America calls them over when they need doctors and engineers and scientists. Its the very culture that has more honor students than student in america combined if scaled to population accordingly. Sorry, but it seems to me…that before pointing fingers at others. You look at yourself and your society.
Peer pressure is never right, even if it’s a social machine.
However, I just adore their accents and quick wit…so I guess it evens out.
haha..sure thing ben! As soon as I’m done giving charity to universities who are begging me to study with them….
Yeah, I agree with you. It’s an entirely different culture from ours here in the US…and from the report, he “kidnaped” her four years ago, then brought her back and ran off….which sounds to me like after that there’d be a public assumption locally that she’s no longer a virgin and therefore she probably wouldn’t have any other marriage options (as I said, totally different culture). So making him marry her is kind of a “you break it, you buy it” thing. (Tacky comparison, I’ll readily admit…)
It’s still not terribly funny, though.
Dude, did you not get that he kidnapped her, ruined her reputation, then abandoned her? Apparently in this area this is tantamount to a marraige proposal, even the young men and police thought so. He is a part of that culture, he knew what he was doing, he knew it was wrong and thumbed his nose at the girl, her family, and the whole village anyway.
And India is one of those cultures that values virginity, I’m sure she rather be married then live the rest of her life as a whore.
Well, some people think that Everywhere Else in the World is juuuuust like living in Oak Park, Illinois or something. Except the food is funny and the money looks different.
you hit the nail on the head.
also, i do not believe the woman is happy……… she is just not drugged up so she can maintain her composure.
The previous three posts in this thread have excellent quotes.
And Illinois needs to give my hometown back to California.
That’s a fairly disgusting display of humanity right there.
If this video is representative of how this man lives his life, he’s definitely being reincarnated into a lower caste.
That’s an ugly ‘Merican comment if ever there was one.
Someone get that dude some Nix, I think he has lice.
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=128567642
There are still honor killings regarding marriages in India. I think the reason that she’s so happy even though her groom is crying is because the Khap Panchayat of her village didn’t have her strangled.
hey, thanks for another great reason, meg! but barbarism is totally cool with me. it’s their “culture” after all. pffffffft
You know…there are still campus shootings in America dealing with ‘justice’ and how people are idiots to other people and those other people decide to get violent. And the only reason the guy who killed the others is somewhat thankful is that the Police of the County/judge didn’t have him killed. That, ben, is a direct comparision. Another reason ben! Its the way your society works after all. pffffffffffft. And you know what a panchayat is? A panel of judges. Not some terrrorist gropu that goes having people strangled. I could also find random instances of all those people who beileive in polygamy and force 15 year old girls to marry them in America and claim that ‘THIS. THIS IS AMERICAN CULTURE.’ Do they represent your culture? Once again, you have proven you know nothing for you haven’t seen. You haven’t experienced. And you don’t know. You assume things from a shallow mindset. I hope you get help.
*yawn* k
haha..I love that comment ben! Because you see what just happend? When you have nothing left to say, you claim ‘boredom’. Its a sign of a weak argument. When I show you something equivalent to your society, which is compeletely justified…its suddenly the stand “yaeh. but its still india. it makes it automatically unjust”. Seriously ben…just because in india they use different names of ‘judge’ dosn’t mean it isn’t the same scenario. When you’re so proud of the same scenario in your society, you claim our society to be barbaric just because of location and people? Now go ahead..make posts about how you really were bored..but after professionally dealing with debates…I know that when people claim to be bored/start railing on the person themself and not their opinions…they have nothing left to say because they just got owned. GO ahead ben! post how that isn’t the case! I’m just laughint so hard right now…you have no reply..because I was right. Once again…the difference between false lies and truth is taht..no matter how many lies you spin..the truth will be reality and you can’t hide it. I hope you haev a great day!
Can everyone stop fighting? I personally think it was horrible to force him to marry her… but thats just my opinion. If it was some guy forcing a girl to marry him everyone would be up in arms about how horribly he treated her and how unjust it was but since its a girl forcing a guy to marry her its okay? But Parul I am not disrespecting your culture or anything but people have a right to their opinion and you jumping on everyone who doesnt agree with you does not prove or show anything to anyone. I understand peoples comments anger you but the best thing to do is not to start a fight it is to know that you have your own opinion and move on. dont pst about her hard your laughing, or about how barbaric our society is because you are doing the same thing eveyone else is! They disrespect your society so its okay to disrespect ours? Think about that…. please.
Dear Katie. I never have said anythign to disrespect your soceity. WHen I give examples, I parralel them to American society so people unerstand what they claims they are making about my culture! I understand people have right to their own opinions! Heck, I personally feel it was horrible as that man is characterless…but I’m not fighting for that cause..I’m fighting for teh fact people are making racist comments and ignorant claims to my culture. I really do respect American society, thats the first think my culture teaches me. I just hope, people would understand, like you have done, that its not ok to judge culture off of flaws of a human being. Just because it is a different location, its not ok to take the fact that this is a character flaw and not a cultural flaw! Thanks for understandign though!
WOAH WOAH WOAH HOLD UP THERE. It is not all of us who marry 15 year old girls and say that is our CULTURE! I am just as horrified about that as you are! JUST BECAUSE ITS ONE INSTANCE DOES NOT MEAN IT HAPPENS EVERY SINGLE DAY! Like this instance when a man was forced into marrige… does that happen alot in India because I don’t know alot about India, but, I would love to learn. If these kinds of things happen alot well thats one thing but since it was on the news Im pretty sure this was a one time thing. I mean Parul arent you just a little put off by the nature of which he was made to marry her. This gives India a bad name… Im sure India is a wonderful country and everything dont get me wrong and Ben is being a stupid ignorant pig (he gives Americans a bad name).
Thank you Katie! thats EXACTLY what I was saying! I hope I didn’t offend anyone though….about my comments to America. It was a simple comparison as to what people were saying about India. ANd well..I gues it worked to quite an extent since people have figured out what claims were really being made! You were spot on Katie! =) thanks so much!
“Is he allergic to his hot wife??” lol, what hot wife?
I can understand that, but isn’t it strange that this is perceived to be a “funny video”? What would the reaction in our culture be, if we saw a movie of a forced wedding where the bride was crying? Still amusing? What do you think would we call the male in such a setup?
Who said it’s funny?
Yeah, I don’t know that this video is classified as ‘funny’ so much as ‘WTF.’ If you’re referencing the tags, those are just standard tags for the website. But I don’t know that anyone was saying it’s a laugh riot or anything
The name of the site isn’t “Funnyblog.org” – it’s “FAILblog.org.”
This might not be funny, but it clearly demonstrates an EPIC FAIL
Really? Cause my address bar says the name of this site is wedinator.com
*shrug*
To say “the indian culture is pretty much the stupidest culture on the planet” is racist, at best, ignorant. And none of us are defending the practice of forcing a woman (or man) to marry someone just because they had sex, we’re just explaining WHY the marriage might be happening. That doesn’t mean any of us condone it. At all.
I’m going to skip the aspects of Indian culture that I personally love, and just say that luckily for all of us, the nasty parts of a culture don’t equal the entire culture. Otherwise we – Americans, Brits, what have you – would all be screwed.
don’t care if you think it’s racist. don’t care if it IS racist. but don’t call me ignorant, because i’m pretty sure i know far more about their culture than you do. but yeah, i’ll come right out and say that i don’t like their culture and i think it’s completely ridiculous in every way. let’s not even get into the human stampedes. their CURRENT culture is not only archaic, it’s just plain barbaric. and no, it’s not about the skin color because – whoopsie! you didn’t know this part – i’m married to a woman of indian descent! and she finds this culture every bit as disgusting as i do. she thanks her lucky stars every day that she was born in the US. so you go enjoy your curry and your false sense of superiority now.
Angry much? Silly me… I didn’t realize that a human stampede is part of a culture. I’m glad you and your wife found each other and are happy together!
fair enough. personal attachments are getting in the way of clearer thinking (or at least calmer wording). my apologies. i had just woken up when i first saw this and saw the original postings of the neo-liberals (aka “we’re so tolerant and understanding and smart that EVERYTHING is acceptable!”) and it really got my goat.
seriously though, is the liberal response to republicans going so laughably off the deep end just to do the same thing on the other side of the fence? i just wish people had some perspective, but accept i did little (if anything) to provide that myself. my bad man
the “moral high ground” is what makes india so f’d up dude.
Ben, you are a racist pig! I don’t agree wiht anything on this page that is said but, just because you married a woman of Indian descent does not mean that you can go around crap about other countries. The U.S is not the best country, its not the best at anything we have problems just like every other country in this world. The U.S has one of the highest arrest rates in the world, teen pregnancy, murders, pimps, pedophiles, drugs, wars we shouldnt even have started, prostitutes, and many other things. WE LET CANADA PAY US SO THEY CAN DUMP THEIR TRASH IN OUR COUNTRY! We can be sellouts and just as bad. Dont get me wrong I love America home of the free and the brave but come on show some respect, no country on this Earth is perfect.
Married an Indian woman? Hahahahaa…thats makes SOO MUCH MORE SENSE NOW! I was wondering..where did he get so much hate from? So it turns out to be nothing more than just prejudice against his wife. Lol..and here I was holding my head being like “is this guy for real?! What HAVE we done to him?” Lol…
Jeebus STFU!! You’re 17!! And I’m betting you come from a wealthy family and are not married. I seriously doubt you’d be on here so vigorously defending Indian culture if you were a poor, uneducated woman would you? No you would be cooking a meal over a fire in a sari wishing you could have a chance to do something else. I love India as much as I love the US but both places have problems.
Actually…I don’t come from a wealthy family. It was wrong of you to assume so. I come from a middle class family in India who has faced a lot of struggle. I face struggle with my parents every day to the point there is hardly enough money to pay bills these days. But thats not the point. But one thing my parents have taught me is the value of education- thats why I’m struggling every day to become the best person I can be. Education is not a privalege for the rich you know. And wow- what ignorance! Cooking over a fire in a saari? haha even poor girls in India don’t wear saaris. No I’m not poor obviously, but I’m not even near rich either. I never denied both places had problems. I actually claimed India has its share of problems also. But before jumping to conclusions about how my point of view comes from being rich, please re-think.My grandparents’ brothers and sister’s families today are still stuck in the past, as shocking as it came to me as I found out 4 years ago, they drive auto-rickshaws and barely survive. Thank god my grandparents and parents struggled for education! But regarldess of that- I make the above claims. It shows you something doesn’t it?
Oh and age should matter either. Does being 17 deny me life experience? Denies the right to cultural identity? The right to knowledge of my country? Haha…I think you should be amazed I’m 17 and hold these views not the opposite way around. For me, its a point of pride- I don’t know why its not for you! I know where I’m going in life, I know the person I want to be. And I know I have all right to comment on my cultural validity. Thanks!!
what kind of horrible pig are you? the usa has just as much screwed up culture as any other place maybe more and why shouldn’t we call you ignorant when its clearly the truth? sure they shouldn’t force anyone to marry but that doesn’t make it okay to slam them! you are a grave insult to your country! may the gods take pity on your soul ben for that is just unexceptible. if i told you i was from canada (which i am) you would probably find something with are culture to your just one of those people who nothing can please. so if your going to hate on peoples way of life please just take your filthy comments else where to some one who cares.
LOL!!!!!! yeah, you crazy canadians and your “bacon.” barbarians!!!! LOL
a few years ago i probably would’ve started arguing with you and stuff, but recently i found out how fucked up it is. i’m from bangladesh, which has a similar culture (used to be india like 60 years ago) andits crazy what kind of things are normal there.
i recently found out that several people in my extended family were forced into marriage. a few of them (the ones who came to the UK) managed to get divorces eventually, and they are ostracized by the whole community sinmply because they wanted a divorce after being forced into marriage in the first place.
its happening a little less in cities now that western culture is spreading (through holywood movies and stuff) but in villages its still the same. for those who live in the west, their kids are a little more sane, but those brought up in bangladesh/ india still think its perfectly fine.
however, in bangladesh, the police will generally be on the side of the person who doesn’t want to get married. its usually the village elders that force the marriage and people will go to the police for refuge. not sure if its the same in india (looks like it isn’t from the vid)
I don’t think it’s right to force him to marry, but seeing how he kidnapped her, likely raped her, she’s very lucky that the village forced him to marry her rather then stoning her to death.
Just because a culture condones something does not make it right. But it could’ve turned out a lot worse. At least this way no one died.
I have a theory it MAY or may not be heavily influenced by the events which inspired me to personally file for divorce.
Maybe when they ran away together (I have trouble believing it was an actual kidnapping considering everything we saw in that video), he discovered that SHE’S NUTS! Let’s see: they spent lots of time together and talked about marriage; they ran away together; he very promptly ran away from her.
Sounds to me like he just saw her real personality in time to do something about it.
Poor guy still got screwed by the system.
And, yes, it is very possible to have a nearly fatal allergic reaction to a hot wife. Ask me how I know.
I feel bad for both of them. It’s such a weird situation. I’m not going to even pretend to know what’s going on in its entirety, or speculate.
It’s just sad to watch. She seems a little happy yet upset by his reaction. He, is clearly, a mess.
Perhaps he should have remained absconding for a while longer, huh?
Just another reason I am glad I was not born in India.
Just another reason I hate living outside India. People who think that such a small portion of rural mishap/character flaw of a person is representative of India as whole. Don’t get me started about America’s problems with random rednecks getting high and doing crap and showing the world that every american is like that.
you’re welcome to go back ANY time, parul. in fact, i strongly encourage you to.
Thanks ben. I’ll keep that in mind. I’m actually visiting next summer! you want a souvenier?
I wonder if this will still be considered funny when he snaps and ends up murdering her in despair a few months/years down the road, or just begins beating her. Wonder if the village youth will help her then or tell her it’s what wives get.
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She is totally hot. Look at her mom– MILF!
you have to be an idiot to think India has the ‘stupidist’ culture in the world. just because there’s still a lot of people following ridiculous traditions doesn’t mean they all are like that and besides there’s worse cultures than Indian and you probably never even heard of ‘em. there’s cultures where torture is literally their life.. they enjoy torturing other people and each other.. do it all the time and they don’t think twice about it..
but yea.. apparently ‘u don’t care’ about what anyone says about your ridiculous statement. so inflexible..
aside from forced marriages i think the Indian culture is pretty cool. get your head out of the sand and look at the good things about it too.
You know…the majority of marriages these days aren’t ‘aranged’ or ‘forced.’ IN a normal Hindu family..the girl chooses to have an arranged marriage if there is no one else in her life. And from that..she gets to pick suitors. Like teh Bachleorette, exactly. Is that a forced/arranged marriage? I don’t think so. ANd oftentimes, parents trust their children enough to chose whoever they wan to marry..and they do. Just saying…lived in INdia? Experienced India?
my name says it all… Of course, as you admitted, you could have worded things better in the beginning, because, afterall you’re not in a room full of friends that know that you’re not, in fact, a racist a-hole, you’re on the internet full of bored people…and perhaps people that ache for a sense of camaraderie and will look for that in the comment section of something controversial, just waiting for someone to say something that is politically incorrect (and what is an easier target than something that can be construed as *gasp* racist??) so that they can feel a sense of belonging when they are one of many people who feel better about themselves because they can point their fingers at you.
I am, by no means, patriotic, but at least I don’t have to worry about this shite.
I don’t think that this is okay at all, culture or no, let’s incorporate some common sense, yo. It could have been (and still holds the possibility of getting) much worse. That sucks…and it sucks even more that happenings like this are at least semi-common. What are we going to do about it? Ship some of our liberators over there to show them a better way of life? Sounds nice, if thats really the way things worked.
i’m glad someone else saw through the mist and understands that this is a big problem over there, and nobody EVER talks about it here. we talk all day about civil rights in the middle east, but we ignore india because it is a “democracy” like “us.” i appreciate the kind words, but you’re right. i’m not in a room full of friends and i do need to mind my words a little more when commenting like this. thanks for reading between the lines though, buddy
I agree. India has problems. But one thing you are forgetting is that India did not cause them. You know who did? History of oppression by those who India welcomed through open arms. your ancestors. Because Indian culture promotes “karm” (karma) …aka…a moral concience. Just because we didn’t misuse people like the brits did and practically squeeze India of all its jewels..created poverty..and practically created Pakistan so the Muslims and hindus wouldn’t team up against Britain…doesn’t mean its our culture’s fault. Our culture teaches us what science is learning right now. Yoga? Its a science of energy by the way. And please don’t forget. When America got colonized….the British didn’t think highly of Americans either. But look at the years of indpendence you had to experiment with your country! America didn’t start out so hot either. Similarily, think what you want and blame all you want about India. But one thing that won’t change from your views is the fact that India is a fairly new country and every country needs time to be built into a better country. Give India time. America started out the same way..and its not because of culture. things that Indians haven’t lost are family values, and what respect is. If you call such things backward..then I cannot help you. Just remember…before pointing fingers at other cultures…look at your own history. We don’t want to end up like that. One thing India is doing..is learning from mistakes of other cultures. our youth, will not be women-exploiting youth. I’m sorry if that sounds backwards to you ben.
I have to say, I’m not one of jump on bandwagons…but I guess you only have MY word for that. When I see something, I call it like it is…ben seems to have ignored everything else in this vid. That this man led this girl on, had his fun, and then made excuses as to why he couldn’t marry her after. It seems all he could focus on is ‘OMG…this is India…they’re backwards barbarians cause they don’t do things the way WE do!’, or was he just upset that in Western culture lovin’ and leavin’ a girl is looked on as no big deal? It stuns me that for some reason everyone in the West wants everywhere else to be carbon copies of them. Oh no, other countries can’t have their own way of doing things, oh no they can’t dress differently, and heaven forbid they have a different religion.
I’ll say what I said in my post to Ben…until you’ve lived over there, your opinions are invalid.
Tell me about it. I mean..who does he think he is? As us INdian’s say it “Teri aukat kya hai?” To go arround making such generalizations that aren’t even based on any evidence? If he wan’ts evidence…being an INdian..I can provide him with all evidence against each and every bit of ‘proof’ he came up with and his remarks. LIke..everything about caste sysytem, laws, are all from what? Crap sources that make stuff up? Go to a real government site, go to real news site in India, and look at context for heaven’s sake! Actually..why don’t you just go there yourself? Instead of sitting on the comfort of your chair/couch and speculate about how all the INdians who crawl in cow dung and live in poverty and have no sense of justice are takign your jobs, advancing their country, provinding the world with brilliant minds and a culture that teaches honesty, and respect/tolerance for other cultures and getting pissed and eventually commentating on their lifestyle, look at yourself! I’m sorry, but we indians pity you. If ignorance makes you a happy man, then I hope you stay ignorant. But the day your ignorance points a finger to us without any REASON or shred of Evidence and blatant Hate, well then..we have a problem. For no amount of sources/opinions you have can’t conceal truths. And when an Indian sets her mind to proving such false stuff you have said about our government/caste system/culture , well then..you’re in for it. For I have truth, I have proofs. And all you have to do is ask. But my culture teaches me to respect. As passed from my mom and generations of my ancesters, from Mahatma Gandhi….I will respect you. This is the culture that brought to you Gandhi..he didn’t just decide that ‘nonviolence’ was importance. It was the culture you call barbaric that he grew up with that gave him that. It is THIS culture that is face of peace and HUMANE CIVILIZATIon that is the face of world today. Yah..we can all agree Gandhi is one of the leading faces of world peace..for all he did was remind our people..what our culture says. BEcause truth , ben..cannot be concealed by your lies. I’m sorry..say what you want….believe what you want..but it won’t change a thing about me, my values, my culture, and my people. we will continue to be ‘barbaric’ in your eyes..while teaching our children the same ‘barbaric’ values that bring them sucess in America and in life. That make them happy. That teach them not to be like the man in the video. Thats why..the youth do as the did. The man is a minority. And the youth…representive of what india stands for. Good day to you. -Parul
you guys are funny
p.s. religion has nothing to do with it, because ALLLLLL religions are fucked up. every single last one of them. i’m sorry you guys completely missed the point of my posts. anyway, please book that next flight to india. bye bye!
Hey Ben! You know whats funny? When people have nothing to say because they know they totally got creamed, they resort to “you are so funny” and “go back to your own country” comments. Its a sign of a poor argument. And your ignorance is astounding. Here you are- thinking you know everythnign about how India runs and culture to claim what you do…yet you don’t even know the basics. Religion has EVERYTHING to do with culture. Culture is formed strangely out of the influence of religious beliefs. Hmm..I wonder how THAT works. In a country which has a lot of religions, but mainly Hindu….a lot of the culture comes from hindusim. Obviously you know nothing about hinduism. Its a way of life..a science of how to leave your life healthily. And culture therefore has adapted to that way of life. Yoga, the science of energies in your body…people do it in the mornings and it is part of Hinduism…because of the scientific principles of how the body works and how it is healthy to start it in the day. Just one example that has incorporated itself into culure. So I hope, when you have better info, you actually make a valid opinion. And Haha…Ben you are so funny yourself! I would book that flight to India if you know…your American brothers weren’t practically begging me and offering scholarships in your advanced pre-med programs. How can I pass a full-ride up? And you know how much harder the competition is against asians to get those….since colleges need to make room for some scholarships for other ethnicites too…so..sorry Ben. Better luck next time.
Are you saying you’ve never dated someone, then broke up with them? The first person you were with, you married? Because if otherwise, you’re being a hypocrite.
“That this man led this girl on, had his fun, and then made excuses as to why he couldn’t marry her after.”
He dated her, didn’t want to date her anymore, then was forced to marry her. Regardless of culture, that’s wrong.
He HAD to. Didn’t you hear the whole friggin town forced him to!! Read a book, Sophie or, at least watch a documentary once in a while. She was probably pretty upset with the way he was acting, but, being a good Indian girl, hid it and acted happy.
LOL, and you say this never having lived there and knowing next to nothing about what it’s like to live there. Probably seen small segments about India on the TV…most likely the News, so therefore only bad things. Take my advice…don’t speak of that which you know nothing about. Yes, you can have opinions, but the only ones that count are INFORMED opinions…other than that it’s just noise pollution…or in this case, wasted bandwidth.
Exactly Catroulette. I hope by ‘you’ you meant other people who know nothing about India except for what they want to hear. Because I’ve lived there, and I hear awesome stuff about India on the news all the time. More awesome stuff than negative stuff..which some ignorant people like to disregard and only take in the negative stuff. Hello…India is a place where Humans live. And where Humans live….there are going to be some people who are seriously whacked up. And if you only look at those people..what view of INdia have you? Well Lets se..let me look at all the whacked up people in America..what view of America do I have?? Its not a cultural thing..but a character flaw. Obviously this guy has a huge character flaw..so just because its a different country…it doesn’t mean you jump to the conclusion its the culture’s fault. Thats just ignorance!
Hi!
I’ve been skimming through the comments- and the arguments between Ben and Parul. For context: I am an American who has been raised in a very strong Hindi/Christian based religion. (Perhaps Parul has heard of the Y.S.S. in India?)
I think Parul is correct in that most Americans are very ignorant of India. (And I think we can safely say that, well…most people in any given country, who have never left that country, are relatively ignorant of any other country on the planet! ^_^ We’re talking about countries, after all- and these two countries are on opposite sides of the world.)
I guess I would like to say a few things:
First, haven’t any of you heard of a “shotgun wedding”? Down in the south (I’m from Texas- which has its own set of silly stereotypes), in America- it used to be you (the father) would go grab the rascal who got a little too friendly with your daughter, and you would drag him to the altar, a shotgun to his back, and you would let him know he’s going to “do right” by her, right there and right then, by getting hitched. It seems comical now- but don’t think it didn’t happen. And don’t think it still doesn’t occur, albeit in more subtle ways- and in many places in the world, east and west. Because whatever you believe, I think almost any culture agrees that getting a lady pregnant and then abandoning her is morally wrong. (What a weak man, to behave like a dog, chasing after a female for sex, then off he goes? We are human beings, not dogs.)
I would also like to say that too many people wish to push the idea that true “forward thinking” lies in allowing low behavior (such as “loving and leaving”) to be recognized as acceptable and good. And perhaps it is painful for those who live this way to be told they are wrong- but some truly believe that amoral actions will bring very real harm and unhappiness to the person behaving that way in the long term. This, I think, is partially what Parul meant when he mentioned Karma.
Honestly, if you have a friend who is a drunk, don’t you feel obliged to tell him so, to ask him to get help? And ultimately, if he doesn’t listen, a true friend would step forward and take that bottle away. There are people, in many religions, who see activity- low, amoral activity- and recognize it as bringing very real harm to the people who behave in that way. And a culture which has many rules, many traditions that guard against amoral behavior- I can’t see why that is a bad thing, certainly not something to be ridiculed.
I’ve never heard of a festival where brothers vow to always protect their sisters. But I find it endearing. How lovely, and how politically incorrect in our western world, where you can get in trouble for suggesting that women and men, generally, are naturally better at different things. One is not smarter than the other- but they compliment each other, and this means that, generally, one sex possesses certain strengths, the other sex another set of strengths. Which is okay. ^__^
About this video in particular: I don’t know what it represents. I don’t know the culture, the context, the particular circumstances here. Maybe this is an example of the Indian version of “let justice be done” or a “shotgun wedding”. What I do know is that no one’s arm is getting cut off, no one is getting beaten or stoned to death, and no one is getting gunned down. Anything else- without context- is something I really can’t judge. I could show you many videos, I’m sure (from America), which you would find more dubious than this- and which could be completely innocent. Context matters, ne? ^_^
I think Parul is understandably angry at having his culture attacked, just because of this video. And yet still, he ends by saying he wishes to be respectful to all- he reined in his temper. This is a commendable thing, considering some of the harsh, mean spirited, and ignorant statements some people have made about his home, his country.
To Ben:
Please, just imagine this for a moment. Imagine if it were America. Just…imagine if everything you said, someone was writing to you, about America, your home, your country.
“America is a stupid country.”
How do you even respond to that? An entire country, labeled “stupid”. That doesn’t even deserve all the serious thought Parul has given you. If it were America these comments were aimed at, you would very likely be furious.
To everyone:
It just so happens I watched a beautiful film only two days ago- I’ve recently been introduced to “Bollywood” films, and I must say, with the few I’ve seen so far- they’re so refreshing! I love them! And this film left me laughing and crying, and cheering and cringing…it was excellent from start to finish. And the story is truly beautiful, and, for me, illustrates what a true marriage is all about.
I urge anyone curious about Indian culture to check this film out. Watch it from beginning to end, and tell me you didn’t connect with these people, didn’t feel joy for this beautiful couple.
Here’s the title (it’s available for instant streaming on Netflix, which is how I watched it):
“Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi” (A Match Made in Heaven)
In divine love,
Dorie ^__^
p.s. I’m sorry if I come across as patronizing or rude. I simply wished to add my own point of view- and maybe point out that when you hold certain beliefs, this kind of thing- making a man “man up” to his actions, can be understandable. You must consider: what is the alternative for these two people? What does he do in the future? The same thing to another woman, because his actions hold no consequences? And how is that good for him, to encourage, by inaction, his wrong behavior? Thus the comments about helping drunk people, shotgun weddings, etc. ^_^ And this doesn’t even take into account the bride’s POV. ^_^
p.s.s. Ah I’m such a silly, getting drawn into this argument. ^__^; No more comments for me. Good night.
wow. not even going to pretend i read that whole thing. just the blurb to me
and yeah, america is a really stupid country. wouldn’t get pissed at all. it’s true.
but america doesn’t FORCE people to marry other people. it doesn’t have anywhere near the human rights issues that india has.
it’s not perfect, but it’s definitely better.
if religion is what’s causing this mess (and guess what? it’s usually the other way around – the woman being forced into marriage), then screw their stupid religion. don’t care what you or anyone else thinks of that. christianity is stupid too, but good god, nothing like this.
and yeah, i get the history of america is checkered at best, but come on….this is the PRESENT in india. give me a break.
so, hey, take all the offense you want. i really don’t care. you don’t know me and i don’t know you.
but i sure do wish people like parul would ship themselves back there. that would be one step to making this country a better place
I am so happy Dorie! Do you know why? Because Ben proved to the failblog community that he only sees/reads/beleives what he wants to! Therefore, all his comments have no context, no shred of baseline truth! And Dorie, Rakhi is a festival celebrated in the North, where my home is in India. And I am…fyi…a 17 year old girl (not guy) lol. Which brings me to a point- Ben..you didn’t read Dorie’s comments about shotgun weddings that seem so “rare” in America but it is in the PRESENT day (if I were to copy your words). Well in India…people don’t FORCE people to mary others either. Like shotgun weddings…the video above is such a *rare* occurence on which you judged that America is better. Yeah, Dorie, why don’t you show him th emany videos about Americans dealing with Shotgun weddings on the PRESENT day and judge all americans that way too! Yeah, Ameriac isn’t perfect. Neither is India..but your OPINION on its better just because you saw some one-time occurance and claimed it to embody all of India is totally negligent of context. I could judge INdia is better if I were to watch a one-time Video in America about Shot gun weddings…but I don’t. ANd you have no right to call my religion stupid. WHERE IN THE WORLD DOES IT SAY RELIGION/CULTURE IS FORCING THIS MARRIAGE? Religion has nothing to do with it..and neither does culture. Like Dorie said…the guy was being forced to “man up” by friends or in the case the guy was drunk..its a friend’s job to take it away. NOw you say the friend has no right to take it away and claim it AMerican society and Christian religion are f’d up for doing so. Well..if the guy is practically vomiting all over the floor..his very good friend has all ight to take that bottle away from him. When comparing Hinduism to Chritianity always remember that Hinduism is more or a way to lead life based on scientific principles. Before lashing out how religion is screwed up JUST because of you thinking religion forced this marriage..then too bad, religion didn’t so it just nulled your points against hinduism. And I have to say..Hinduism is a very liberal reilgion….it actually promotes free marriage and propriety. You don’t know anything about it so….I don’t think you have the right to claim! So here ya go- have a break! The break you so well requested is here. What you claimed about PRESENT india and HInduism..just got nulled. Now you an take whats left of your false opinions and go on that break because all you said just got proved untrue. If you have any more stuff to say abut what you think India is..bring it on. I can come out and keep proving to you why you’re wrong. I can also bring in proofs from our holy texts that state so too. But knowing you…you wouldn’t care to read becasue you want to beleive what you awnt to believe to make yourself feel good about your own society. At this point..no one is taking offense anymore because everyone knows your opoinions are baseless…so you can say all the tough guy stuff people say about “not caring” when they know they don’t have anything else to say. GO ahead..keep wishing people like me out of the country… The only day that would happen is when people like you get smarter and start taking scholarships your own country practically begs to give us..so we could help you. THe day we leave your counry..is the day you will lack doctors, engineers, and scientiests that ae working on curing cancer in your own labs. Ok Ben..if you don’t want the cures to all your family problems/don’t want america to progress into the future…I suggest you send a petition to Obama and tell him to get Indians out of the country. Thats the day your country will stop working. And if you will excuse me..the girl who was raised stepping over cow manure and lived in such a “poor” society has an internship at the age of 17 at the University oF washington’s cancer reearch labs. Once again..I hope you have a great day ben. Maybe one day..you’ll stop embarrasing yourself with such views, with no backing of truth in them wahtsoever since all you can come out with is “go back to your own country” and “pshh….I don’t care.” =)
And thanks Dorie! yes..I’ve heard of YSS! ANd rab de bana di jori..I love that movie..! Thanks for your opinions on this matter. It was seriously, SPOT ON…if people like ben *care* to read it. Just goes to show how Ben’s opinions form. Thanks for helping out this little girl. I personally don’t think there i anything left to say in the matter. I think its over. Unless ben wants to continue embarassing himself or posting comments like “whatever.” Thanks!!
Parul, congratulations on your eloquent responses (clearly you’ve sent him running with his tail between his legs) and on your impressive scholarship with UW!! Are you going to be moving to Seattle or studying from India? (I’m curious ’cause I live in Seattle, and we can always use more awesome smart ladies around like yourself
Hey ELI! I’m actually 17. I live in Seattle, so I’m doing internship there before senior year. I’m getting scholarships elsewhere! thank you very much Eli. I just hope people will learn more respect…I do respect other cultures very much. ANd am very tahnkful for AMerica for giving me this opportunity. I moved to America when i was 6 though! =)
move back.
Why don’t u move back to Europe? Theres no point in starting another argument, ben already lost. Twas declared a while ago…And Parul already commented on that comment a million times before…if you read above. Wow. I can’t believ ppl r still fiting for this. You’re a bit late Eric Cartman. You’re just embarrasing yourself now.
It’s amusing you think you’ve won. You both lost. Congratulations, you made an anonymous person on the internet stop responding to you. How does that give you any sort of higher ground? If anything he simply did not feel like trying to speak a different view to someone who would not listen to it.
There is no point in talking to a wall, which both you and ben were. You both had your opinions and both are not going to change them. All you did was make the both of yourselves look like foolish children bickering.
Also, I think the point of ben’s arguments was missed because everyone was too busy jumping onto the RASIST! bandwagon. But I know it’s not worth trying to explain because it would simply lead to another post bickering another view once again.
All I honestly have to add in regards to my own view is that all cultures are a bit fucked up and need changed. But then again, I know it’s a part of culture for it to change with time. Besides, we’re all assuming all of human kind has the same moral compass. There will never be a time when all of humanity can agree upon what is right and what is not. So while we wish we could give freedom or justice to everyone, there will always be someone who disagrees with your view of what freedom or justice is. Always.
Dood. You’re Soooooo BUSTED. Suck it up!
Bet he already has another wife stashed somewhere or wanted to have another “better” marriage and this will F it all up. Awww. I’m weeping for ya. Really, I am.
I figured out what bugs me about this. The guy professes interest, kidnaps her and The Priests Don’t know WHY he kidnapped her?! Oh, wait… they’re priests. I guess they shouldn’t know about these things. Sorry. Carry on!
Oh My God. TL;DR already. You trolls are making me feel all numb on the left side of my face.
I like you Ben, you’ve got spunk.
Lol. Spunk my ass. He ran away.
Hahaha he ran away? Maybe, unlike you, he doesn’t spend 12 hours a day on the computer, waiting for someone to comment on his post, so he could reply instantly. Maybe he said what he wanted to say, then went grocery shopping, or hiking, or went to work.
Parul > Don’t bother talking to walls, most of these type of people lack open-mindedness. They just think comparativaly to their own upbringing of alleged morals and values, without understanding that differences aren’t a matter of right and wrongs.
Not to mention they fail to see the point you make in your comments, therefore… Don’t talk to the idiots ^^
Oh Thanks. I know I might be talking to walls, but please understand it not about what they think, its about how this view had to be represented. Here I was, surfing this website, alarmed at the extent people were agreeing with ben and those not agreeing were getting smacked down with “i don’t care if im racist. haha. its still a backwards country”. It just felt like my duty- the right thing to do to make sure my culture wasn’t misrepresented. I mean- his claims were all false anyway, so someone had to tell him “uhm…thats not true…where did you get that fact from?” I was (haha) surprised at the amount of people goign like “woah. now that you think about it. they even have a caste system! ” as if Ben’s facts he made up himself were shining a light into some wrong epiphany. Thats all. But thank you, I will keep your words in mind for the future. =)
i dont get her, why the hell would you be happy to marry someone who obviously doesnt want you.
Try pulling your head out of your butt and learning about other cultures. Or, you know – READ THE THREAD. Moron.
bc india is better than u
You’re blaming her?
Yikes…
Ignorance is bliss.
Parul,
Tell us about the cultural value of dowry burnings